The priest was so abraisive and rude, I told Fiance I was not getting married in the Catholic church, so I think the wedding may be off. I do hope that at the very least, the content of the test will remind you and your fiance of things that might need to be discussed! Were your answers completely different or did you just have different ways of answering, like one of you was more likely to put undecided than agree or disagree? If your answers were completely different it probably does mean you and your Fiance have a lot of talking to do about issues that will affect your lives as a couple, cause you probably have very different ways of approaching things. We discussed our Foccus test with a marriage counselor assigned by the catholic church and he went through all the questions that we were very different on.
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As many of you know, Dr. We are active members in our church and it was really important to us—and to our families—that our faith was a part of our wedding ceremony.
So, with a Catholic mass comes Catholic Wedding Prep! Rather, it is a tool used to help couples identify, discuss and work through important relationship issues before they get married. Source for all of the above. I laughed out loud at some of the questions.
Another truth? Some of them were really thought-provoking. It was interesting to talk with Dr. Groomy about some of them and it really did facilitate communication. So, after you take the test, our church has you meet with an older married couple to go over some of the things that might need to be discussed between you and your partner.
We had a great time with them and they gave us lots of good pointers and tips they were in their 60s and had been married for many many years. Still, that issue was pushed as something we need to continue to discuss and figure out.
All in all, I would say the FOCCUS test was a good experience, but perhaps better suited for couples who have never lived together before. A lot of it was about sharing space, learning argument styles, when the partner needs alone time, etc.
Groomy and I already know that about each other because we have lived together for so long. What did you learn in your marriage prep? Filed under Ceremony. I kindddd of wish we could take this!!! I love quizzes and tests. This seems like it could be fun but also eye-opening. But we did have to do the CEE weekend catholic engaged encounter. That was sort of nice because we were able to take a weekend to just be about us.
Did you notice when you were taking the test that you and your fiance had already worked through the questions in the years you have been together? Michigan game going on during our ceremony…. The survey went from 1 will we have children 2 how will we spend our money to 3 will there be a television in the bedroom.
Or something like that. Apparently these issues they told you to bring up are like the biggest dealbreakers. It was kind of fascinating to see the mix of the mundane and the profound. Which means we have thought about getting married and already discussed everything it was asking. On some questions like the one about whether you worry your in laws will interfer in your married life, I put agree and my h2b put disagree, it was flagged as something we need to discuss which was dumb because we have discussed it and although he asssures me his parents wont, he knows I worry about it.
Also, the last time I looked worry was a feeling which wont necessarily disipate through discussion. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google account. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Facebook account. Notify me of new comments via email. Notify me of new posts via email. Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.
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If you want to get married in the Catholic Church, there are several hoops that you have to jump through, beyond, you know, being Catholic. One of these is a premarital compatibility test questionnaire. This is meant to be a compatibility assessment tool that helps couples uncover potential topics or issues that they may not have encountered. There are additional sections for co-habiting couples and interfaith couples. The idea is to make sure that, as a couple, you have thought through and discussed many of these topics before jumping into marriage; if not, now is the time.
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There is a special section at the end for "cohabitation couples" don't even bother trying to lie and say you don't live together. We didn't lie but had friends who did just because the Catholic Church frowns upon it and they got caught in the lie and felt like big fat idiots when the Deacon called them out on it. Log in. Sign up Log in. Catholic Weddings New Discussion. February in Catholic Weddings. We're taking ours next weekend, and I'm curious -- what's it like?